Hello, I am a BEAM Mum and here is my story...
A few years ago my child was removed from my care. I kept thinking that I would wake from this bad dream. But I didn't. I woke up every morning without him and the only time I could see him was in supervised contact. I felt so judged by the man with the clipboard, that I didn't know what to do with my child anymore. I felt stripped of my personality.
One day I was in contact with a different supervisor, I sat on the sofa and didn't do much more than that. The supervisor asked me "what would you do if you were at home with your child?" I said we would be playing, laughing, smiling and cuddling. She said "try your best to do what you would normally". She suggested bringing toys from home.
I brought a bag of toys to the next contact session and it was the happiest I had felt in weeks. I took a photograph that day that I will treasure for the rest of my life. It was a picture of my Son smiling. This picture represents a precious moment in time where I had forgotten all about court, social services, the past or the future. Above all else this picture represents love.
I never looked back after this day. I would bring different toys, plan activities and I took so many pictures.
I want to help parents in this situation to make the best of supervised contact, this is why I put together an advice leaflet, from one parent to another. I am also working on other ways of supporting parents. To download a copy please click the files below.